At a particular point in our lives,we experience betrayal from the people we trust. Son of man always seems to act like one. The people who are to shadow you with their love are seen stabbing you right at the back! At a time, you think and feel that this person got my back,then boom! the person starts to act up. Betrayal is always a bitter pill to swallow, but you can recover from this undesirable condition - betrayal.
You should understand the word 'Betrayal' more than you do before. Betrayal means to fail or desert especially in time of need; to be unfaithful or disloyal to someone (Merriam - Webster dictionary). The unfaithful person can be a friend, parent, sibling,family member, colleague,lover,even clergyman and woman. The major problem in letting go is that we believe that some set of people can never disappoint us, and this is totally a wrong mindset. So,in trusting someone, you have to have it at the back of your mind that this person can disappoints me at any time. Having this mindset,it will be very easy to let loose from the hug of betrayal whenever it happens.
It is good to give yourself sometime to get over the initial shock and take a clearer view of what happened. You have to figure out what led to the betrayal. You need to take a careful look at whether they purposefully deceived you or not. Their intention really do matter.
Try not to blame yourself. A lot of time, the betrayed person who is the victim do end up blaming themselves for what happened. You should never take responsibility for what someone else did. Don't let another person's actions affect the rest of your life.
You can focus on the bright side and see beyond the emotional pains. The betrayer have shown how disloyal they are and have done you a favour by making you know that they are not right for you whether as a colleague of partner, friend e.t.c.
Then, forgive. Forgiveness does not mean that what the other person did was okay, it is a gift to yourself because it sets you free. It is more about learning to leave the past in the past. When you refuse to forgive, you have only opened the door of more hurt. While the fellow,on the other hand, may be living his or her life in peace, you keep hurting yourself.
Don't give any one license to keep hurting you;let it go.
Men will fail you but God never fails. Trust God for your own good. When you trust Him, you are putting your faith in the one person that will never disappoints,hurt and betray you. The people who can let you down are the people who you lean on. So,lean less on people and more on God.
You are created to live a joyful life with the assurance that God is with you.
Live and let's live.
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